I learned that it’s important to choose the issues you have control over with your kids, and those you allow them to control. Let them take decisions that don’t really matter, as long as you decide the crucial stuff. Footwear was an early one for me. When the boys were younger, I realised how important it was for them to wear the shoes they wanted to wear, not the ones I thought right.
As long as they fitted correctly, it didn’t really matter which shoes they wore, so I let them have control over this issue. Instead of objecting to shoe choices, I supported them. They grew up learning how to make decisions on stuff like footwear, and kids are no different from the rest of us, they like making decisions on things that affect them. While I made them eat vegetables and rationed sweets.
If I turned to them now and said, “You’ll not get the wear out of them”, “They look ridiculous”, or “No, I don’t like the colour”, it would be so far removed from what they expect is their right to decide, they would think I was joking. But they still don’t bat an eye when I tell them what’s good for them and what’s not, because they know I only impose rules that matter.
We have other guidelines at work. We don’t wear jeans. Well not often. Because we’re all adults, sometimes people pitch up wearing them. I’ve never once asked why. Maybe it’s a laundry situation. Occasionally, I know they are going to do a stressful task in front of a PC for 8 hours, so assume they just want to wear what feels comfortable.
Sometimes I reckon it’s because people need a bit of scope to do their own thing, and as it doesn’t really matter, I worry about things which do matter.
There’s another feature of management I’ve seen in business. Every manager needs to make decisions. It’s part of what we expect of ourselves when we are appointed. No one has ever sat down with a manager to carry out a review and been told, “We’re doing just fine, nothing’s going to change”.
If the manager has scope to make significant improvements, the changes will be ambitious. From others, you will get plans for a new Tidy Desk Policy.
Newco manager, Pedro Caixinha, has informed his players they cannot wear green boots, as that is the colour of Celtic. Set aside the fact that this is a contrived attempt to create faux rivalry – it simply won’t. This is a serious contravention of the rules of leadership.
Setting rules about stuff which no one should care about, is self-demeaning. It costs the rule-maker credibility, and credibility is everything in leadership. Especially in a football dressing room.
This guy will be lucky to see the September Weekend.
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TGM
I would like to say something positive but the truth is, I haven`t got a clue. Sorry.
JJ
HOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOPY Birthday Jobo
HOTSMOKED
Will do.
Hot Smoked
That is a clear response:)
And you are right, nobody knows what is going on.
Im starting to think its just paper talk.
HH
JF- do you think Caixinha is behind the boots WATP crap? He is a puppet manager being worked mainly by Traynor, defacto King, soon to be Johnston.He will do what he is told, and accept what nonsense Level 5 subject him to.HH
What is the stars……………Shams and Cork had good away wins last week in Europe also. Halfway through the LOI season so fitness levels are tops.
Meet a Chelsea supporter ex Londoner living in Australia for twenty odd years on a cruise in April. He definitely favoured the Huns said we were a Irish team. I did not argue with him, but let him know I favoured the Gunners.
As Pedro Caixinha sinks deep into the morass of latent sectarianism that, sooner or later, always seems to get the incumbent of the manager’s office over there, a number of players under contract to the club are bedding in for the long haul.
Andy Halliday is one of them.
He’s out on loan, but he has reportedly told his fellow players he expects to be back at Ibrox someday soon. He’s also suggested that he doesn’t expect Pedro Caixinha to be there when he does. He is but one of a number over there who is prepared to wait this one out.
They don’t expect it to take long.
They think their manager is living on borrowed time.
Caixinha is clearly cracking under the pressure of this job.
He sounds like a desperate man, already pleading for time, already pandering to the worst elements in the stand as he scrambles to keep his “project” on track. He has reversed himself on the strength of the squad, he has alienated entire swathes of his dressing room and is determined to silence all dissent and clear out any malcontents no matter how much value they bring to the club.
This weekend’s explosion of insanity, his pandering to the sectarian element, is the mark of someone who’s totally lost it already.
But worse is the treatment of his own players, many of whom are furious about the way they are treated.
The ban on green boots treats them like children. The imposition of a ludicrous code of conduct, filled with things that make not one iota’s difference to how a team performs on the park, has built an already simmering resentment inside a dressing room now divided into two factions, which themselves have the capacity to splinter into many more.
Caixinha has already lost most of these guys, and over the course of a season he’s going to need some of them.
The club is also being damaged by his antics.
The position of Barrie McKay is a case in point.
He was the most highly rated player at the club last season, and the club is now preparing to sell him for under £1 million. There is no doubt that he possesses a certain level of talent, and as they cannot command big money for him it’s equally clear that if he departs it will not be for financial reasons or because he’s not good enough; he is clearly capable of playing a role at the club into the future. The simple truth is that he is one of a number of players who is not convinced by the manager and is highly resistant to some of his ideas.
McKay is being moved on because he does not believe in Caixinha or what he is trying to do, and the manager has not even tried to bridge the divide between him and the players who feel the same way. His decision to put the player in the reserves is only one of the reasons McKay’s value has collapsed, and that will hurt the club financially.
Caixinha is an arrogant sod.
It would be all well and good if he had arrived at Ibrox with a pedigree to match that, but these players aren’t in the slightest bit convinced by his CV. They aren’t convinced that a guy who came to the club from Qatar and who has never managed a top class European club has the authority to come in and make so many changes, some of which the players don’t see as serving any benefit, such as extending training hours and cutting short the close season.
Some have even looked across the city at the deft way Rodgers has handled players who are out of favour at Celtic – such as the compassion and decency he showed towards Efe Ambrose – and have come to the conclusion that their own manager comes up way short of that standard, on a human level as well as being a leader.
A story about that emerged only this weekend, with the news that Brendan had got the family members of those playing in the cup final team to record some personal messages for them which Brendan had put in their locker before the game.
It’s little things like that, little moments of excellence, of class, that set him apart.
And players talk to each other.
They are not as insular as Caixinha and those in the club above him are.
Some of the footballers at Ibrox are mightily impressed by the way our manager goes about his business, and the compassion and concern he shows for his players. That is not in evidence, anywhere, at Ibrox where instead they have a “disciplinarian” in charge.
And of course, it gets even more complicated when one considers that Kenny Miller is already setting himself to step into the boss’s shoes when they prove too big for Caixinha’s feet. He’s already said to be helping with the formation of the in-house resistance, as one of the architects of the “WhatsApp conspiracy” I wrote about last month.
All of this is why the focus has switched, in recent weeks, from selling players – for whom there are no buyers to be had – to letting them go out on loan. These footballers would otherwise sit in the Sevco reserves and suck resources out of the club whilst undermining the manager’s efforts day in day out. If they can be gotten out the door, at least, and with their host clubs paying part of their wages that’s seen as a half-victory at least.
But who’s it a victory for? These guys believe they’ll be going back. They believe they’ll take up their Sevco shirts and places in that dressing room all over again, and they don’t think it will take long. They are banking on this thing ending quickly.
When you consider the whiff of madness which wafts off Caixinha at the moment it’s easy to see why. They know this has all the hallmarks of a catastrophe … and they are lining up to take full advantage when it does.
Caixinha has made some serious enemies already.
Far too many of them are still on the Sevco wage bill.
I think they’ll outlast him. And so do they.
Pedro has a job on his hands with sleekit Kenny in the background:)
That dressing room this season will be a sneaky-snidey hell-hole of lies and betrayal, as per usual.
Should be fun watching the consequences:)
HH
Above is in response to a request from HOTSMOKED,I didn’t realise it wasn’t accredited.
From JAMES FORREST on The Celtic Blog.
We all know Pedro is being worked by Jabba, the Lying King etc. But he certainly being credited with it but he Numpties over on FF……. Silly Billys
BOURNESOUPRECIPE
The Holy Cross Bhoy hands, knees, elbows and heads down:))
Square go at the auld toilets:))
Maybe we should encourage Pedro to be strong, and to boycott Celtic Park:)
HH
JimTim- the huns try hard to ignore Traynor, as he scrawled a 12 page obitury when they died in the DR, now they are paying him thousands…a perfect storm HH
I have got to admit the blue washing pegs in our house are like new (never used). We must be bigots.
I was at the Chelsea ‘friendly’ back in 06(I think), I have never witnessed a more poisonous atmosphere before, during and after the match. On the back of the Linfield decision, if we make it to the group stages and draw Chelsea, I hope Celtic refuse tickets for Stamford bridge as well, with a reciprocal arrangement in place for Celtic Park.
Police Scotland has launched an investigation after a video emerged online showing spectators at Saturday’s Orange Walk in Glasgow breaking into a banned chant known as the Famine Song.
In a 43-second clip posted onto Twitter on Sunday, the march is seen passing under a bridge as hundreds of people stand by and look on.
A group of people at the end can be heard to repeatedly shout: “The famine is over, why don’t you go home?”
Chelsea?
One of my best pals follows Chelsea home and away.A Kingston 12 Tuffy who moved to London in 62.He isn’t exactly far right material.I’ve been to lots of Chelsea games with him.No hassle.Their support does include some far right looloos but so does this site.I’ve yet to meet a Chelsea fan who gives a fig about Scottish football.
@heraldscotland
For above story
BMCUW
Thanks very much for that. A good enough read but , as far as I can see, it is simply one guy`s opinion and may or may not be valid.
I will , however, be influenced by the more powerful opinion which will be given from the Supreme Court on Wednesday.
Thanks again. You are a very helpful chappy 0:-).
JJ
Right, excuse me. I have a Tour to watch.
JJ
The Green Man says SACK THE Board on 3rd July 2017 1:29 pm
Sevco fly out to Luxembourg for the return leg.
Sopwith Camel, Air Ship, Balloon, Kite?
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Sevco players in departure lounge wearing approved kit……
https://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/c/ce/Ecuador_Blue-footed_Booby_6262.jpg
Barrie “two balls” McKay shows how it’s done….
http://cdn1.arkive.org/media/6A/6AD2B57A-C3F3-420D-8447-1BE430FBC664/Presentation.Large/Blue-footed-booby-at-nest-with-eggs.jpg
Kenny Miller talking “single fish” as usual….
http://otlibrary.com/wp-content/gallery/blue-footed-booby/112900293.oQHBIlKm.jpg
BOURNESOUPRECIPE on 3RD JULY 2017 1:24 PM
Who would win in a fight between Gerry McLaughlin and Chris McLaughlin?
…………………….Mrs McLaughlin.
On the Chelsea fans thing.I think you will find that most English fans will be like this.Full of Rule Brittania,right wing knuckledraggers.We have come across them all over England when we play there.The Tony Mowbrey testimonial,the Birmingham game when Karen whatshername,had to go into the home crowd and grab their offensive banners off the home fans.Dont under estimate the amount of propaganda the Huns spread throughout England.
!!BADA BING!! on 3RD JULY 2017 1:06 PM
So when are Sevco bringing out the orange strip? That’s what is coming next……
Come off it. You know it was tangerine.
Jamie Lindsay > Ross Co on loan
The SPFL proudly announce that next season the winners of The Betfred Cup will receive ,wait for it,
250,000 quid.Thats including TV money.
I’d be quite amused if the entire Celtic team wore red, white and blue boots at Ibrox and pumped another 5 past them with that quintissential footwear…
Ha ha!! Sandman
Best suggestion yet!!
Sandman
Can we put shamrocks on those red,white, and blue boots, or a skull and crossbones at least:)
HH
JNP
Re your holiday
Sounds like a trip well enjoyed mate, pity bout the dolphins, next time maybe :-))))
Golden Eagles make time tumeless,could watch them catch therms all day
HH
With regards to boots, I couldn’t care what they wear at Ibrokes, but at Celtic Park it should be Black only with white logo embellishment if necessary.
Long sleeved shirts to hide all of the stupid tattooed arms.
And a short back ‘n sides.
Old fashioned thinking .csc
A loonball leading a cesspit of bigots …………..what could go wrong
Nós somos as pessoas
LOL CSC
SANDMAN on 3RD JULY 2017 3:37 PM
I’d be quite amused if the entire Celtic team wore red, white and blue boots at Ibrox and pumped another 5 past them with that quintissential footwear…
Or we all wear green boots…..agree with Kittoch black boots only
Kittoch
And what about handlebar moustaches for all the players…..and their wives
Aye that wee KT had white boots in during the match on Saturday
Billy Big Boots me thinks :-))