I learned that it’s important to choose the issues you have control over with your kids, and those you allow them to control. Let them take decisions that don’t really matter, as long as you decide the crucial stuff. Footwear was an early one for me. When the boys were younger, I realised how important it was for them to wear the shoes they wanted to wear, not the ones I thought right.
As long as they fitted correctly, it didn’t really matter which shoes they wore, so I let them have control over this issue. Instead of objecting to shoe choices, I supported them. They grew up learning how to make decisions on stuff like footwear, and kids are no different from the rest of us, they like making decisions on things that affect them. While I made them eat vegetables and rationed sweets.
If I turned to them now and said, “You’ll not get the wear out of them”, “They look ridiculous”, or “No, I don’t like the colour”, it would be so far removed from what they expect is their right to decide, they would think I was joking. But they still don’t bat an eye when I tell them what’s good for them and what’s not, because they know I only impose rules that matter.
We have other guidelines at work. We don’t wear jeans. Well not often. Because we’re all adults, sometimes people pitch up wearing them. I’ve never once asked why. Maybe it’s a laundry situation. Occasionally, I know they are going to do a stressful task in front of a PC for 8 hours, so assume they just want to wear what feels comfortable.
Sometimes I reckon it’s because people need a bit of scope to do their own thing, and as it doesn’t really matter, I worry about things which do matter.
There’s another feature of management I’ve seen in business. Every manager needs to make decisions. It’s part of what we expect of ourselves when we are appointed. No one has ever sat down with a manager to carry out a review and been told, “We’re doing just fine, nothing’s going to change”.
If the manager has scope to make significant improvements, the changes will be ambitious. From others, you will get plans for a new Tidy Desk Policy.
Newco manager, Pedro Caixinha, has informed his players they cannot wear green boots, as that is the colour of Celtic. Set aside the fact that this is a contrived attempt to create faux rivalry – it simply won’t. This is a serious contravention of the rules of leadership.
Setting rules about stuff which no one should care about, is self-demeaning. It costs the rule-maker credibility, and credibility is everything in leadership. Especially in a football dressing room.
This guy will be lucky to see the September Weekend.
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Long sleeve tops? Yes especially if they are wearing whit undervest … hate seeing them ..makes it look like a hibs top!
Level 5 are merely playing the old orange card.
The ‘coloured football boots’ issue is most defeinitely not a black and white one ;-)
On the subject of colour prejudice, I don’t mind blue as a clour. Most of my jeans are blue. I have blue trainers with white striped pattern and even a little bit of red on the padding at the heel ( I couldn’t bring myself to take them to Lisbon though ). Onitsuka Tigers, if that means anything to you. Lovely, they are, and very comfy :-)
But i do have to draw the line somewhere.
I had been away from home with work last year for a couple of weeks, and was picked up at the airport by my son and taken home. On reaching the house, and parking on the driveway, i was astounded to see the garage door painted a shiny shade of Royal Blue. My good lady had been busy while I was away, and decided that the door needed ‘freshening up’ as she put it. It never crossed her mind that the colour of the door could be construed as anything other than houseproud occupants who like to give an appearance of maintaining a clean and tidy image to our neighbours. If it had been any other colour, I would have been really pleased. The door had been looking a bit the worse for wear, and definitely needed repainting. But it was Blue, and very similar to the colour of a team who used to play out of Ibrox.
Within 15 minutes of getting home, despite an overnight transatlantic flight during which no sleep was had, i was at B&Q buying a tin of the most beautiful green gloss paint, and 2 hours later the blue door was an eye-pleasing, heart-warming Emerald Green, with white surround. Next day it had a second coat and looked even better.
I did eventually forfive my wife, but not before she agreed that Going to Lisbon in May was a good idea.
It was worth having a blue door for a couple of days while i was away, but it’ll never happen again.
Sorry. Thought that was going to be a couple of lines, but it might fill some time, or even have a soporific effect on those wh have difficulty sleeping later…..
Shakin’StevensQN
5 -1………….. is the most common scoreline between Celtic and Sevco.
…..It has long been taken as FACT that the required footballing footwear for any Tims, upto and including First Team Players, is specified as, and I quote….
” well-dubbin’d Adidas Beckenbauer boots – black with white detailing..”
Anything else runs the very real risk of the offender being dismissed as a “Fancy Dan”.
And apologies for the typos which make it even more difficult to get thru. Fat fingers and an ipad keyboard don’t always make for an easy read…… :-(
“It’s not the colour of a mans boots that matter but what he does with them on the park”
Starry Mao
” Football without the boots is nothing ”
Joke Stein
There is a rumour doing the rounds that when Trump and Putin meet at the G20 Putin has requested the finest of stallions to ride in on and Trump has requested to walk the red carpet to the tune of “Macho man” by the Village People.
No word yet from the Prime Minister of Montenegro
HH
gsu
UselessnewsCSC
Onitsuka Tigers – are they a speedway team?
“We did it by playing football. Pure, beautiful, inventive football…………in plain b/w adidas Beckenbaur fitba’ boots”
Jock Stein.
Celtic have been linked with 51 players in 2017.
Only two months to go CSC
BOURNESOUPRECIPE on 3RD JULY 2017 4:46 PM
i’m off to PORTA on 14th july?????????
BSR
are we going for 55 :(
BANKIEBHOY1 on 3RD JULY 2017 4:27 PM
…..It has long been taken as FACT that the required footballing footwear for any Tims, upto and including First Team Players, is specified as, and I quote….
” well-dubbin’d Adidas Beckenbauer boots – black with white detailing..”
Anything else runs the very real risk of the offender being dismissed as a “Fancy Dan”.
Memories of Brian Glover’s brilliant performance in Kes…
FAV
Hoping to be there before the end of the month…….. if god spares me © my maw
Gene
We are the Papal ;-)
Bada……
:)
” the fair-haired, slightly balding Charlton to kick-off……”
Onitsuka Tigers.
Used to be the lightest sports shoes you could buy 40 years ago, ( that’s reaaly quite scary to admit to ) when i was more into playing sport than watching it.
Like wearing lead boots compared to some of the stuff you can buy now. Most of which fall apart after a few months of active use. :-)
We dont need boots, we can play in our bare feet:)
That’s the solution to this boot crisis.
HH
“Tetley make tea bags make tea”, and that Allison’s bread has “nowt taken out”.
Brian Glover
Good evening friends.
My sincere and humble thanks to the constant good wishes sent my way today on this still fine site and via other modren media methods.
On this very same date last year I set myself a personal target. Yes, I was going for 55. And today I reached that milestone.
I am The Person! And there’s barely a colour that I don’t wear, including a rather striking tangerine tie!
Oh and it’s currently dry, mild but cloudy in ole EK.
Thanks again.
Old Man Jobo
Jobo
You the oldest guy in the North Curve?
Shirley? CSC
Happy birthday JOBO!
Neil Young – Old Man
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SYUgGs9IStY
BATEEN BHOY
Onitsuka Tigers The Thinking Tims Shoe:))
Mexico 66
£20.00 for Broony’s biography.
Thoughts?
Brian Glover played ‘Yorkie’ in an excellent early episode of ‘Minder’. Old army pal of Arfur, down to the Big Smoke from I’m sure you can guess where, for a night on the ale, after which he disappears, leaving Arthur to deal with his wife. During the search, an exhausted Arthur falls asleep in his parked car.
A gang of boys are kicking a football against a wall nearby, one of the boys boots the ball and it hits the window of Arthur’s car, on the driver’s side. Arthur winds down his window to give the boys a piece of his mind]
” Watch it!”
boy: “Naff off, you narky old bastard!”
Arthur: “Oi! Not so much of the old!”
BSR
i think VFR might just pip me for that honour.
WTF West Ham had a higher average home attendance than Celtic last season………get that extra tier built pronto Peter
THE GREEN MAN SAYS SACK THE BOARD on 3RD JULY 2017 1:44 PM
Turkeybhoy
Im sure you have noticed the uncanny textual interplay between Macjay and The Donald.
Astounding performance.
Five Stars:)
*********
TGM
Nearly spat out my coffee … then reread it, and realized it was “Textual – ( With a T )- interplay” … Thought for a moment the night shift had taken a rather unexpected turn!
jobo,
Happy birthday mate.
HH
Big crowds at West ‘Am? I’m sure the bubble will soon burst.
West Ham
Starry, :-))
Them’s the one’s . The original white with blue and red striping were de rigeur for people who jumped up and down with only a net to separate them from their opponents.
Those were the days
MIT
I was on my own last night battling ‘dark entities’ on the blog:)
HH
New approved ayebrokes footwear, The Boots of Champions
Happy Birthday to the EK weatherman, El Jobo
BATEEN BHOY
I was never the sporty type mines were more for low key shuffling at Jazz Funk and Soul do’s:)) I had a green and yellow pair with the gum sole, lasted for years:))
Too expensive now though:((
Dallas Dallas,
Aye you needed to crunch a few knuckles and tickle a few palms to get into Babcock & Wilcox.
No sign of our resident wind up merchant today or did the CQN mafia dispose of him?