I learned that it’s important to choose the issues you have control over with your kids, and those you allow them to control. Let them take decisions that don’t really matter, as long as you decide the crucial stuff. Footwear was an early one for me. When the boys were younger, I realised how important it was for them to wear the shoes they wanted to wear, not the ones I thought right.
As long as they fitted correctly, it didn’t really matter which shoes they wore, so I let them have control over this issue. Instead of objecting to shoe choices, I supported them. They grew up learning how to make decisions on stuff like footwear, and kids are no different from the rest of us, they like making decisions on things that affect them. While I made them eat vegetables and rationed sweets.
If I turned to them now and said, “You’ll not get the wear out of them”, “They look ridiculous”, or “No, I don’t like the colour”, it would be so far removed from what they expect is their right to decide, they would think I was joking. But they still don’t bat an eye when I tell them what’s good for them and what’s not, because they know I only impose rules that matter.
We have other guidelines at work. We don’t wear jeans. Well not often. Because we’re all adults, sometimes people pitch up wearing them. I’ve never once asked why. Maybe it’s a laundry situation. Occasionally, I know they are going to do a stressful task in front of a PC for 8 hours, so assume they just want to wear what feels comfortable.
Sometimes I reckon it’s because people need a bit of scope to do their own thing, and as it doesn’t really matter, I worry about things which do matter.
There’s another feature of management I’ve seen in business. Every manager needs to make decisions. It’s part of what we expect of ourselves when we are appointed. No one has ever sat down with a manager to carry out a review and been told, “We’re doing just fine, nothing’s going to change”.
If the manager has scope to make significant improvements, the changes will be ambitious. From others, you will get plans for a new Tidy Desk Policy.
Newco manager, Pedro Caixinha, has informed his players they cannot wear green boots, as that is the colour of Celtic. Set aside the fact that this is a contrived attempt to create faux rivalry – it simply won’t. This is a serious contravention of the rules of leadership.
Setting rules about stuff which no one should care about, is self-demeaning. It costs the rule-maker credibility, and credibility is everything in leadership. Especially in a football dressing room.
This guy will be lucky to see the September Weekend.
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THEGREENMAN,ANTEARMANN
We speculate,huns hope.
And as John Cleese said in Clockwise,the despair I can live with. It the hope that kills you.
Mind you,not sure I want to be known as a speculator,but it beats being a hun (no) hoper…
Speculation won’t mean a thing until the Catman informs us.
TONYDONNELLY
Eeeejit clearly disnae realise almost all boots were black back then.
Mind,I recall a story from Stevie Murray who was a great player and huge loss for us via an “innocuous” toe injury.
Alan Ball had been signed to a white boot deal,first to wear them.
He swore he did it first cos he left his boots in Aberdeen!
Thanks for replies re etims
Cowiebhoy,
I am very sorry to read of your Dad’s passing. I’ll light a candle for him and the family in Drogheda this afternoon.
I guess when your manager is a looney tune and yer team is full of journeymen and you’re led by a boss eyed glib and shameless liar, the colour of the players boots is all you have to talk about…
The Goldfish Bowl is no place for shitey wee teams like Sevco:))
Cowiebhoy
Condolences on the loss of your dad.
HH.
My opinion, it’s all speculation, this one going this one staying, this one signing, this one not, then again people like that sort of stuff I suppose, until it’s officially sent out by the club , then I’m interested, I don’t even do friendliness or testimonials now, a used to, but not now, used to travel all over, young guns are taking over and good for them.
Can’t wait for the season to start and this stupid window closing carry on is finished, load of tripe, it never closes, players sign Aug, Sept. Oct. Nov. Dec..
There’s always a claus, it’s a joke.
BMCUWP
Supporters want to see signings.
I dont mind speculating on who we will manage to sign and who we wont.
The transfer window is hell, but at least we dont need to buy our training gear from a stall at the Barras:)
Also. There is mounting internet speculation relating to the new Lionel Messi(Stuart Armstrong), will he stay or go. Personally, i think he should listen to Brendan rather than his film star agent, but what do i know.
Rumours of Steven Fletcher’s motor been spotted driving itself along the M8, Fletch is in the back seat, Sleeping:)
HH
Cowiebhoy
My condolences to the sad loss of your Father, may he RIP +
Wonder where Ernie is the day?
Someone put up a political post.
That should flush him out.
THE GREEN MAN SAYS SACK THE BOARD
Why do you keep going on about Stuart Armstrong and his agent??
It’s his Da’
We get it you don’t like the Bhoy:))
OBBY MURDOCH’S CURLED-UP WINKLEPICKERS on 4TH JULY 2017 11:44 AM
TONYDONNELLY
Yes, but as long as he put it right, then it’s news, it’s what they do best, talk …..
new article posted.
If i was Brendan, i would do this. Sell Stuart Messi, and use the 10 million, and the VVD add on fee to sign Musonda and Paddy.
Works for me.
HH
Barrie McKay signed for Notts Forrest for £450k.
LA FIORITA .
A quick look at the San Marino media .
Linfield ? .
An unknown quality before the first leg -revealed to be solid and physically aggressive . No evidence of significant technical skill / quality. .Not unbeatable !!!!!
The Green Man.
Dont speculate.its not real.lol tho it could end wi you, me and bmcuw as a back3.:-)
HH
Haw TonyD
What have you got against Santa?