I learned that it’s important to choose the issues you have control over with your kids, and those you allow them to control. Let them take decisions that don’t really matter, as long as you decide the crucial stuff. Footwear was an early one for me. When the boys were younger, I realised how important it was for them to wear the shoes they wanted to wear, not the ones I thought right.
As long as they fitted correctly, it didn’t really matter which shoes they wore, so I let them have control over this issue. Instead of objecting to shoe choices, I supported them. They grew up learning how to make decisions on stuff like footwear, and kids are no different from the rest of us, they like making decisions on things that affect them. While I made them eat vegetables and rationed sweets.
If I turned to them now and said, “You’ll not get the wear out of them”, “They look ridiculous”, or “No, I don’t like the colour”, it would be so far removed from what they expect is their right to decide, they would think I was joking. But they still don’t bat an eye when I tell them what’s good for them and what’s not, because they know I only impose rules that matter.
We have other guidelines at work. We don’t wear jeans. Well not often. Because we’re all adults, sometimes people pitch up wearing them. I’ve never once asked why. Maybe it’s a laundry situation. Occasionally, I know they are going to do a stressful task in front of a PC for 8 hours, so assume they just want to wear what feels comfortable.
Sometimes I reckon it’s because people need a bit of scope to do their own thing, and as it doesn’t really matter, I worry about things which do matter.
There’s another feature of management I’ve seen in business. Every manager needs to make decisions. It’s part of what we expect of ourselves when we are appointed. No one has ever sat down with a manager to carry out a review and been told, “We’re doing just fine, nothing’s going to change”.
If the manager has scope to make significant improvements, the changes will be ambitious. From others, you will get plans for a new Tidy Desk Policy.
Newco manager, Pedro Caixinha, has informed his players they cannot wear green boots, as that is the colour of Celtic. Set aside the fact that this is a contrived attempt to create faux rivalry – it simply won’t. This is a serious contravention of the rules of leadership.
Setting rules about stuff which no one should care about, is self-demeaning. It costs the rule-maker credibility, and credibility is everything in leadership. Especially in a football dressing room.
This guy will be lucky to see the September Weekend.
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Cowiebhoy.
Sorry to hear about the passing of your Dad.
My thoughts are with you and your loved ones at this difficult time.
Hail Hail
COWIEBHOY on 3RD JULY 2017 8:14 PM
Norrie, when I received your message earlier it saddened me but i sort of expected it.
I know you believe John is in a better place now and he is.
I’m sure wee Jinky will be part of the welcoming committee for John and with £40 in his hand…:)
May God Bless John’s Soul.
Keep the Faith!
Hail Hail!
Hoopy Birthday Jobo
Going for 56
Cowiebhoy
Thoughts and prayers with you and the Family – may your Dad R.I.P.
KTF!
MIT.
I’ve been just watching you tube with The Band and The Staple family singing The Weight.
Have you been to see Mavis yet? If so how was she?
One of the greats of our time, as she is getting on a bit, did she still have it?
Hail Hail.
Jobo.
I hope you have enjoyed your birthday.
Hail Hail
COWIEBHOY…
Sorry about the passing of your dad. Thoughts and prayers for your family.
Dallas.
I see Tony has been busy at Pollok, they look to have a really proper squad for next season.
I know Stefan McCluskey and Paul Byrne from their days at Gretna and Airdrie respectively. Two smashing bhoys and both good players too.
Park Rd 67.
I hope Girvan have been strengthening too.
Hail Hail.
JIMMYNOTPAUL
Age ain’t no thing to those gals…
Candi Staton still doing it…
https://youtu.be/6TI_TIRkA5Q
Revolution CSC
Condolences to the excellent CQN’R Cowiebhoy
May your dad R.I.P.
The All Blacks off to Luxembourg
NaeBlue? CSC
Jobo, happy birthday.
Cowiebhoy, you take care
May your Dad rest in peace
HH
CRC
Cowiebhoy
Norrie, we’ll be in Sacred Heart, Cumbernauld tomorrow night for the rehearsal for Friday. Before the practice I’ll light a single candle in memory of your oul da John.
Keep these posts my friend they’ll help you in the days/weeks ahead.
Cowiebhoy,
Sorry to hear of your loss, may your dad rest in peace
HH
gsu
Park Rd 67
If you are about.
Hope that troll nonsense didnt put you off.
Trolls trying to bait people into saying despicable things.
It wont work.
CQN atheists are on the case:)
HH
FAPAAC
Luxembourg is not a particularly religious country, but is still about 70% Catholic. These people are acting like you would expect an English football crowd to behave. Non stop hatred.
JNP
Nicky Little, Bankies top scorer last season has signed for Pollok too. Good player.
Jimmynotpaul, Tony let a lot of the old guard at Pollok go including the Winters brothers. Robbie Winters is about 42 now . One of those released was their right back, Tam Hanlon , who defied aging . He is 37 but played with the energy of someone 15 years younger. Tam scored a terrific hat trick, featured on Soccer Am , last August. My Pollok supprting chum is not happy Tam has been let go.
I think Stefan McLuskey played for Shotts when Tony was there.
Pollok have also signed Clydebank’s best player , Nicky Little.
Delaney’s at 9.28 , snap lol
Cowiebhoy –
Sincere condolences on the passing of your dad. May he rest in peace.
Joe
Good night all
Thank you for being here.HH
DELANEYS DUNKY,
If you’re still about , I got your message about Michael last week, just haven’t been able to catch up with you. Please pass on my sincere condolences to Patrica and the rest of the family
HH
gsu
Dallas
Great minds n ‘at haha
Cowiebhoy on 3rd July 2017 8:14 pm
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Sincere condolences
Cowiebhoy…..
May you and yours find peace….a sad day ….may your dad rest in peace..
NB.
DD,
Patricia that is
Greensideup
Will do pal. His family are in shock. Too young.
Michael Tracey RIP
Starry Plough.
Thanks for puting up the video of Mavis and Candi.
Excellent stuff.
Jobo/ D.D.
What is it? great minds think alike or fools seldom differ. :-))
Jobo.
Yes, Stefan was at Shotts when they won the Junior Cup. Paul Byrne played in the Hurlford team that won the Junior Cup a few years back too. Both are about 26. Stefan was Morton. I’m sure he scored at Ibrox when Morton drew 2.2.
Hail Hail.
Norrie – sincere condolences to you my friend. He must have been done man cause he raised a great Bhoy. It was great to see his message played at your brother in laws birthday party in Toronto a few weeks ago.
May he rest in peace and God bless John McCabe.
Slainte
Tony
Cowiebhoy, sincere condolences on the loss of your father. John McCabe RIP, enternal rest grant to him oh Lord and may perpetual light shine upon him.
Greensideup
Michael lost his dearly beloved wife last year.
Patricia believes that her wee bro died of a broken heart. Sad
Cowiebhoy.
Lovely story. Must have been heartbreaking typing it in.
May John McCabe rest in peace and continue to live within those he loved.
COWIEBHOY – Sorry to read your news fella.
Thoughts and Prayers for all who are close.
May God rest your dad.
Try to be strong.
JOBO BALDIE – Keep it lit fella ;)
HH
For A People – If you watching from the start, i am jealous. Current TV is guff just now, i am back watching for the 5th time ….HH
It’s time to…..
walk a million miles, for one of those smiles…
aff, black faced Jolson…..
…..off-oot.
Cowiebhoy @ 08:14
Beautiful post.
To get his £40 worth from Jinky, I hope yet oul pul da thinks to ask Jinks if he’d ever been part of an invincible Celtic team and watch the expression on his face.
May he rest in peace …
VIP