I learned that it’s important to choose the issues you have control over with your kids, and those you allow them to control. Let them take decisions that don’t really matter, as long as you decide the crucial stuff. Footwear was an early one for me. When the boys were younger, I realised how important it was for them to wear the shoes they wanted to wear, not the ones I thought right.
As long as they fitted correctly, it didn’t really matter which shoes they wore, so I let them have control over this issue. Instead of objecting to shoe choices, I supported them. They grew up learning how to make decisions on stuff like footwear, and kids are no different from the rest of us, they like making decisions on things that affect them. While I made them eat vegetables and rationed sweets.
If I turned to them now and said, “You’ll not get the wear out of them”, “They look ridiculous”, or “No, I don’t like the colour”, it would be so far removed from what they expect is their right to decide, they would think I was joking. But they still don’t bat an eye when I tell them what’s good for them and what’s not, because they know I only impose rules that matter.
We have other guidelines at work. We don’t wear jeans. Well not often. Because we’re all adults, sometimes people pitch up wearing them. I’ve never once asked why. Maybe it’s a laundry situation. Occasionally, I know they are going to do a stressful task in front of a PC for 8 hours, so assume they just want to wear what feels comfortable.
Sometimes I reckon it’s because people need a bit of scope to do their own thing, and as it doesn’t really matter, I worry about things which do matter.
There’s another feature of management I’ve seen in business. Every manager needs to make decisions. It’s part of what we expect of ourselves when we are appointed. No one has ever sat down with a manager to carry out a review and been told, “We’re doing just fine, nothing’s going to change”.
If the manager has scope to make significant improvements, the changes will be ambitious. From others, you will get plans for a new Tidy Desk Policy.
Newco manager, Pedro Caixinha, has informed his players they cannot wear green boots, as that is the colour of Celtic. Set aside the fact that this is a contrived attempt to create faux rivalry – it simply won’t. This is a serious contravention of the rules of leadership.
Setting rules about stuff which no one should care about, is self-demeaning. It costs the rule-maker credibility, and credibility is everything in leadership. Especially in a football dressing room.
This guy will be lucky to see the September Weekend.
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Quiz time.
How many Celtic players will Lawwell sell to Southampton this summer?
M McG
I once visited Lloyds the chemist in Larkhall had blue livery. The copious amount of methadone they were dispensing to the guys in Rangers taps was still green though.
Selective colour discrimination.
Margaret McGill
Poor Andy Halliday fae Coupland Rd will be gutted wi awe the kaffliks taking his wages(pies and buckfast):)
Banished to the back of beyond, waiting for a call from The Kenny.
HH
Margaret McGill
Poor Andy Halliday fae Coupland Rd will be gutted wi awe they kaffliks taking his wages(pies and buckfast):)
Banished to the back of beyond, waiting for a call from The Kenny.
HH
oops…doubler
Delaneys Dunky on 4th July 2017 12:59 am
Blue livery you say? or blue liver?
Its even a badge of honor there to puke blue.
Aurora
Lucky for Pedro there are no Bullfighting Rings in Glasgow:)
HH
The Green Man says SACK THE Board on 4th July 2017 12:59 am
You’re assuming they will get paid.
Or are EBT’s still the norm? :)
M McG
Kenny and Lee de Grass are to Pedro what Wee Barry was to PLG.
Pull your seat up close. Get the popcorn out and watch the fun fae doomdome soon.
Delaneys Dunky on 4th July 2017 1:07 am
totally agree! :)
Margaret McGill
Andy will probably be put on pallet duty now:) Pay as you go:)
A huge towering bonfire. That is the very policy that will prevent a United Ireland.
We can never hope to defeat that kind of out of the box thinking:)
HH
Sums it up really
Wee Kenny should be greateful for he wouldn’t get gig anywhere else; not even cleaning boots for a Sunday League team
The Kenny. The Dr Moriarty of Sevco.
‘Haud ma Jaicket hen’:)
‘Ah mean,how can they awe no speak scoddish, whit awe rat aboot’
‘Watch ma swish pinstripe suit ya bam’
HH
MARGARET MCGILL on 4TH JULY 2017 1:10 AM
Larkhall is Mississipi.
That article is funny then you read the comments
Invincibles, CL, Both Pedros , BTC, Res 12, UDA Britain, another CQN season (maybe), Ronald McDonald as President
Well dont know about you lot but I’m
Ready to go !
TGM
Wee Kenny is in wi the Mob noo.
Done a coupla jobs.
Made man in Bothwell Bridge. ;)
DD
Awe The Kenny needs now is a Crombie and an open razor:)
HH
Margaret McGill
Comedy Gold in buckets this season.
Like ‘The Life of Brian’ and Blazing Saddles combined:)
Ringside seat for the fall-out.
HH
TGM
His gangster moll carries the chib in her bag.
1950s Maryhill stylee. Ma mammy telt me. ;)
DD
‘Haud ma jaicket hen’:)
HH
TGM
Haud ma jaiket, pass ma piece hen. :)
New Career beckons.
For three hours only at the Brigton Pallet Factory.
Kenny Miller as Jimmy Boyle as Jimmy Boyle in ‘No Sense Whatsoever’
Co-Starring: Dave King as Hector Nichol, and Barry Fergushun as John Broon
HH
DD
Kenny Miller as Jimmy Boyle in ‘No Sense Whatsoever’
Scene 1
KM: Here yooz, ah wiz staunin here wi ma bird(haud ma jaicket hen), an a wee burd told me that yooz owe four bob for buckfast…zat true.
Maryhill Mob: Aye, whit aboot ya tube
KM: Well now lads…(swish), ye know ah played fur them kaffliks, an it pure kilt me
MM: Aye, whit aboot ya trumpet, we awe hated ye ya bampot
KM:Naw yeez didnae
MM: Aye we did, ya pure chancer, noo get back to Saughton before ye get a slap.
HH
Condolences to Cowiebhoy and his family on the loss of his dad.
May his soul rest in peace.
And may God give his family the strength to bear the loss and find joy in shared memories.
Those who live on in our hearts never die.
INVINCIBLE ‘GG on 4th July 2017 3:13 am
I have a whole lot of hurt Touching down soon.
Seeing Dad crippled is so painful to witness. He, like me… Doesn’t trust the care of Elderly people. He knocked back Surgery. All the Crew were saying to get it done.
He is CORE.
Kilcreggan CELTS.
MaxiMUM
Mr Mccabe , rest in peace
Cowiebhoy
May your dad be at peace in heaven
RIP John McCabe
Cowiebhoy
Sad to read of the passing of your father.
God bless and may he rest in peace
Cowiebhoy
I am so sorry for your devastating loss …. may your father rest in God’s peace
COWIEBHOY
Sincerest condolences on the passing of your dad.
Remember the good TIMes.
KTF n HH!!
Good morning CQN from a grey, mild and dry East Devon.
Margaret McGill on 4th July 2017 12:57 am
Quiz time.
How many Celtic players will Lawwell sell to Southampton this summer?
>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>
Only those who don’t want to stay.
I trust BR
COWIEBHOY: Condolences on the loss of your Dad. RIP.
Word of The Day
ululate /ˈjuːljʊˌleɪt/
verb
1. to howl, as a dog or a wolf; hoot, as an owl.
2. to utter howling sounds, as in shrill, wordless lamentation; wail.
3. to lament loudly and shrilly.
4. (intransitive) to howl or wail, as with grief
Derived Forms
ululant, adjective
ululation, noun
Word Origin
C17: from Latin ululāre to howl, from ulula screech owl
KTF
COWIEBHOY
Sincere condolences on the loss of your Dad.
May he rest in peace
“People reject what they do not understand because it makes them feel small. They would rather believe in some other reality, even if it is only an illusion, so long as it makes them feel bigger.”
Suzy Kassem