I learned that it’s important to choose the issues you have control over with your kids, and those you allow them to control. Let them take decisions that don’t really matter, as long as you decide the crucial stuff. Footwear was an early one for me. When the boys were younger, I realised how important it was for them to wear the shoes they wanted to wear, not the ones I thought right.
As long as they fitted correctly, it didn’t really matter which shoes they wore, so I let them have control over this issue. Instead of objecting to shoe choices, I supported them. They grew up learning how to make decisions on stuff like footwear, and kids are no different from the rest of us, they like making decisions on things that affect them. While I made them eat vegetables and rationed sweets.
If I turned to them now and said, “You’ll not get the wear out of them”, “They look ridiculous”, or “No, I don’t like the colour”, it would be so far removed from what they expect is their right to decide, they would think I was joking. But they still don’t bat an eye when I tell them what’s good for them and what’s not, because they know I only impose rules that matter.
We have other guidelines at work. We don’t wear jeans. Well not often. Because we’re all adults, sometimes people pitch up wearing them. I’ve never once asked why. Maybe it’s a laundry situation. Occasionally, I know they are going to do a stressful task in front of a PC for 8 hours, so assume they just want to wear what feels comfortable.
Sometimes I reckon it’s because people need a bit of scope to do their own thing, and as it doesn’t really matter, I worry about things which do matter.
There’s another feature of management I’ve seen in business. Every manager needs to make decisions. It’s part of what we expect of ourselves when we are appointed. No one has ever sat down with a manager to carry out a review and been told, “We’re doing just fine, nothing’s going to change”.
If the manager has scope to make significant improvements, the changes will be ambitious. From others, you will get plans for a new Tidy Desk Policy.
Newco manager, Pedro Caixinha, has informed his players they cannot wear green boots, as that is the colour of Celtic. Set aside the fact that this is a contrived attempt to create faux rivalry – it simply won’t. This is a serious contravention of the rules of leadership.
Setting rules about stuff which no one should care about, is self-demeaning. It costs the rule-maker credibility, and credibility is everything in leadership. Especially in a football dressing room.
This guy will be lucky to see the September Weekend.
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Sevconites arriving in Luxemburg
Cowiebhoy
may your da rest in peace
JNP
Pollok and Tony look like they mean business.
Looking forward to the team that Kieran McAnespie puts together for the Bankies back in the top league. Ex Celt Ciaran Lafferty looks a goer for striker.
Condolences on the passing of your Dad, Cowiebhoy,
May he rest in peace.
Condolences to Cowiebhoy, keep positive mate and I wish you strength for the tough days ahead.
Just checked-in to pass on a text I got tonight – apologies if you’ve heard it/seen it/posted it earleir:
Hun dressing room –
Pedro: Right monkeys, no more green, the Celtic colour. No more wearing green boots. We must get rid of all green in Snake Mountain, you understand?
Kenny Miller: But, boss – whit aboot the grass?
Pedro: He will start at left back.
New Pedro XBOX game out already
Delaney’s at 9.34 and Jimmynotpaul at 9.41 , both could apply. Lol .
Delaney’s , Gal from the Lions bus has a post on facebook , they are running a bus to the Sunderland pre season game.
The last time the Lions ran a bus to a friendly against Sunderland was that benefit game in Berwick and what an eventful trip it was.
Let’s hope that we a very good signing in place before the above pre season friendly.
Cowie hoy
Condolences on the loss of your beloved dad, prayers said for the repose of his soul may he rest in peace.
Dallas
Thanks for the heads up about Sunderland bus. Will phone Gal tomorrow for my son and I. Ryan is a LL bus virgin. Could be a memorable trip to Wearside. :)
Cowiebhoy sad to hear of the death of your dad, John. May he rest in peace. I will remember him and all of your family at night prayer and at Mass tomorrow.
You have plenty of great Celtic moments with your dad to remember in the days ahead. I am sure he and Jinky will have a good time together. I bet the good Lord will be hearing few great Celtic memories tonight. God bless you all.
Delaney’s , Clydebank have a really good record at Newlandsfield over the last 8 years including a Junior cup semi final win in 2009 and winning the Central League Cup there , three times since 2010.
The last time Pollok played the Bankies in the league at Newlandsfield was about three or four years ago. The Bankes won four three and what a game it was.
Frankenstein banned from Ayebrokes
GREENMAN
I’m fine mhate , still here posting ,
JIMMYNOTPAUL aye Girvan have got a few players lined up to strengthen for first season in top league and have retained most of last season’s squad
Cowiebhoy
Sincere condolences on the loss of your father, may he rest in peace.
Cowiebhoy
Sorry for the loss of your old Fhella,R.I.P John.
Park Rd 67
That’s what id expect bud.
Hail Hail:)
HH
Delaney’s , if you are on facebook, Gal’s facebook post mentioning the Sunderland game is the one about the Lions AGM , the Sunderland trip is in the AGM agenda.
Starting to look like this Musonda story is not going anywhere. Some guy has been in touch with his brother and screenshoted the conversation in which he says he’s staying at Chelsea to fight for his place. Will be a bit awkward for Etims if it doesn’t happen given they said it was almost over the line.
Sincere condolences Cowiebhoy on the passing of your Dad John
Dallas
Don’t do Facebook or Twitter.
Will get Ryan on the case. :)
The Tim Reaper
That looks the case.
Transfer windae….grrrrr:)
HH
JNP
Saw Mavis on Tuesday. At Koerner Hall, the conservatory hall, so the sound was great.
It was fun. She seems like a really cool lady who has had an interesting life. She had a good rapport with the audience, and her voice still sounded pretty good. She did a nice mix of newer stuff and the hits. Her guitarist was terrific! Only downside was a pretty short set, and no encore (she tired visibly during the set).
But she is one of the last of that generation, so Definitely worth seeing if you get the chance.
TGM
We shall see what Brendan says after the match tomorrow regarding players in, I’m sure he will be asked.
Have etims ever had an exclusive, serious question
The Tim Reaper
Brendan mentioned the type of player he wants.
That was enough for the fantasy reporting to commence.
2+2=127:)
The crayon scribblers are in the dark like everyone else.
We shall see:)
HH
!!BADA BING!! on 3RD JULY 2017 10:45 PM
Have etims ever had an exclusive, serious question
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I’m not a great fan to be honest, i don’t visit their page. The truth is nobody really knows anything about whats going on at Celtic.
The Tim Reaper
Im now resorting to reverse psychology:)
Hope it works.
No way will we sign Charly.
HH
TGM
I wouldn’t say no way, it does seem we have an interest but the reports suggesting it is immanent seem to be off the mark. Brendan has spoken of this player that we are ‘very close’ to signing so lets see what happens. It should happen soon or it will begin to look like another target missed.
TGM
Thought you were warming me up for Radiohead on Glasgow Green on Friday there.
2+2=5 It’s the Devil’s way now, you can scream and shout, but there is no way out.
You have not been paying attention!
Canny wait.
Cowiebhoy .
Sincere condolences . May your dad rest in peace . Take care N .
Cowiebhoy
Your story from your Dad re Jinky was brill.
My Dad was 74 today and as a gift I framed a copy of a letter he received from Jock Stein in 1978 when he became manager of Leeds United responding to a letter from my Dad wishing him well in his new job. The letter was typed and signed by Jock on Leeds United letterhead. My Dad had put the letter in a scrapbook with other articles from Jock’s last year with Celtic, and had given this to my cousin my years ago as a gift and had forgotten about it.
Anyway, last year my cousin gave it back to me and said it should be returned home, to which I made sure it happened last night, My Dad was delighted and recalled many stories on Celtic. It was a good day.
This is the man that made sure I followed Celtic. I owe him so much respect. I am sure you are well proud of your Dad and indeed sad, tonight.
God Bless
HH
CRC
Cowiebhoy
My condolences on the loss of your father. May he rest in peace and may your great memories of him bring you comfort.
DD
Im watching closely:)
Dynamic Duo should be putting on their Blackshirts as we speak.
HH
THE GREEN MAN SAYS SACK THE BOARD
Who Enoch and Winston:))
Jobo, happy birthday.
HH
Starry Plough
The Donald and A.N. Other.
Bad habit they have of talking to themselves:)
Its very difficult to deconstruct:)
If i wasnt so fooled by it, id swear they were the same person:)
But, what ever you do….Dont mention ‘Unwitting Testimony’:)
HH
THE GREEN MAN SAYS SACK THE BOARD
Multiple Posters talking among themselves, heavens to Betsy whatever next!!!
One Man One Login CSC:)))
Starry Plough
Its fun when they back each other up.
A: Yes i totally agree, shirkers, strikers, scum
B: Hear, Hear, Fascism is certainly easier:)
HH