I learned that it’s important to choose the issues you have control over with your kids, and those you allow them to control. Let them take decisions that don’t really matter, as long as you decide the crucial stuff. Footwear was an early one for me. When the boys were younger, I realised how important it was for them to wear the shoes they wanted to wear, not the ones I thought right.
As long as they fitted correctly, it didn’t really matter which shoes they wore, so I let them have control over this issue. Instead of objecting to shoe choices, I supported them. They grew up learning how to make decisions on stuff like footwear, and kids are no different from the rest of us, they like making decisions on things that affect them. While I made them eat vegetables and rationed sweets.
If I turned to them now and said, “You’ll not get the wear out of them”, “They look ridiculous”, or “No, I don’t like the colour”, it would be so far removed from what they expect is their right to decide, they would think I was joking. But they still don’t bat an eye when I tell them what’s good for them and what’s not, because they know I only impose rules that matter.
We have other guidelines at work. We don’t wear jeans. Well not often. Because we’re all adults, sometimes people pitch up wearing them. I’ve never once asked why. Maybe it’s a laundry situation. Occasionally, I know they are going to do a stressful task in front of a PC for 8 hours, so assume they just want to wear what feels comfortable.
Sometimes I reckon it’s because people need a bit of scope to do their own thing, and as it doesn’t really matter, I worry about things which do matter.
There’s another feature of management I’ve seen in business. Every manager needs to make decisions. It’s part of what we expect of ourselves when we are appointed. No one has ever sat down with a manager to carry out a review and been told, “We’re doing just fine, nothing’s going to change”.
If the manager has scope to make significant improvements, the changes will be ambitious. From others, you will get plans for a new Tidy Desk Policy.
Newco manager, Pedro Caixinha, has informed his players they cannot wear green boots, as that is the colour of Celtic. Set aside the fact that this is a contrived attempt to create faux rivalry – it simply won’t. This is a serious contravention of the rules of leadership.
Setting rules about stuff which no one should care about, is self-demeaning. It costs the rule-maker credibility, and credibility is everything in leadership. Especially in a football dressing room.
This guy will be lucky to see the September Weekend.
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Starry Plough
Leonard Zelig:)
HH
THE GREEN MAN SAYS SACK THE BOARD
Yer a baaaad Bhoy:)))
Sorry to hear your sad news Cowiebhoy, condolences on your loss.
TGM
Split personality fun.
You being well read and having an encyclopediac brain must do their ill informed wee brains in. Forza TGM :)
HH
norman,
sincere condolences to you anne and your family on the passing of your father.
jean and gerry.
Starry Plough
Some light reading for tonight.
‘The Mass Psychology of Fascism’, Wilhelm Reich.
Followed by a brief investigation of Jack Parsons, not forgetting Ron.L. Hubbard.
Concluding with a few scenes from Eyes Wide Shut.
That should do the trick.
HH
DD
You know, there is always someone to call their wee bluffs:)
I thrive on it.
HH
SP
TGM is on a mission.
He is not a bad man at all.
Bring down the Government.
They don’t speak for you or me.
TGM
Like a cat playing wi a field mouse.
Keep it alive cause it’s more fun alive and scared, than dead.
THE GREEN MAN SAYS SACK THE BOARD
Haha light reading say The Boff:))
I’m on “Amusing Ourselves To Death”
Re read
A few pages of Bushido and then baw baws:))
Keep it lit Comrade
Witching hour approaches.
Dark entities abound.
HH
THE GREEN MAN SAYS SACK THE BOARD
Get yer hair vest on ye’ll be fine:))
THE GREEN MAN SAYS SACK THE BOARD on 3RD JULY 2017 11:20 PM
I was more concerned with failed attempts of one bigpacky (or was it bhun billy – who knows?!) at bringing he blog into an unfreindly conversation regarding Sectarianism.
I couldn’t figure out if he was an FF troll or an old-fashioned, out-of-date fool.
Cowiebhoy
Sincere condolences to you and your family at this sad time. May your dad rest in peace
AuroraBorealis79
I think it was about trying to bait people to say despicable things
It didnt work.
Too eager to steer the blog into uncharted waters, stick out.
Bad crack indeed.
We should actively resist such nonsense.
HH
CowieBhoy –
Thoughts and prayers with your Dad, your family and friends at this sad time.
Starry Plough
Im ready….unleash the hound of hell:)
HH
Aurora
Read back all that nonsense. Fake story I think. I have never read an anti protestant post on here. Lies to denigrate CQN was my first thought.
Dunphy and Giles on the Lisbon Lions
https://soundcloud.com/thestandwitheamondunphy/ep-49-remembering-the-lisbon-lions-50-years-on
DD
Spot on.
It was amateur troll hour.
Badly constructed.
HH
COWIEBHOY on 3RD JULY 2017 8:14 PM
Growing up in Glasgow , the surname Mc Cabe was weel kent indeed .
Particularly among the Celtic supporting fraternity .
Kind regards to you and to all your family.
Deepest sympathy on your sad loss.
Hail Hail
TGM
When I was a member of the Billy Stark Temple CSC, I think there were as many prods as kaffliks on the bus. We were all Tims and nae Huns though.
HH
DD
Aurora
There was a pattern over a couple of days, looking for reactions.
Gradual ramping up of the sneaky-snidey posts.
Barking up the wrong tree.
HH
DD
Exactly, i pointed out the sheer right-wing hun depravity and desperation of the multi-poster mob.
Even drawing attention to the universal nature of Celtic didnt make a dent.
Alarm bells.
HH
DELANEYS DUNKY on 4TH JULY 2017 12:15 AM
I totally agree man. Like TGM said, he was on here baiting & the fact that he didn’t get any bites (on a Sunday to) goes a long way to proving that this ain’t the place for that sort of nonsense.
What Celtic fans (who has forgotten more than we would ever know, as he put it) moment of nostalgia would be bottles being thrown at opposition players back in the 80’s?
Fkin Delinquent
TGM
The hun bus that left fae Knightswood had how many kaffliks on it every week? Guess :)
DD
Got to feel sorry for the new sevco free transfers though.
They will be slightly annoyed about the Green boots fiasco and their WATP welcome from Pedro.
I will give it three weeks and ra berrz will be draggin Pedro through the Saltmarket:)
Roof Davidshun will be in the front rank putting the boot in:)
HH
DD
Zero
HH
Cowiebhoy
I remember meeting you outside Estádio Nacional.
Sincere condolences.
TGM
Zero. Correct
Pedro could become the present day Saint John Ogilvie when it goes pear shaped soon.
DD
Hopefully some CQN wag will snap all the new sevco kafflik players coming out of St Mary’s after mass with their Poundland training gear on:)
HH
M McG
There are no green traffic lights in Larkhall.
They have been painted blue.
TGM
My Ryan who is smarter than his auld man, told me that the huns were wearing training kit from two years ago, on the news fae Luxembourg tonight.
Delaneys Dunky on 4th July 2017 12:45 am
Thats just a drunken popular misconception. The blue light is the cop in the rear view mirror.
DD
Pedro… it will be like the end scene of ‘The Wicker Man’:)
HH
Barry Ferguson and Paul Le Guen
Barrie McKay and Pedro Caixinha
Coincidence?
I dont think so.
Pedro….It will be like a flashback to the 16th century.
The top man John Knox cackling like a demented satanic cardigan.
Pedro: It wisnae me your honour
JK: aye it wiz
Pedro: It wiznae, ask John Broon
John Broon: Aye it was that rat Pedro awright:)
HH
TGM#
More like the opening scene in Mississipi Burning