I learned that it’s important to choose the issues you have control over with your kids, and those you allow them to control. Let them take decisions that don’t really matter, as long as you decide the crucial stuff. Footwear was an early one for me. When the boys were younger, I realised how important it was for them to wear the shoes they wanted to wear, not the ones I thought right.
As long as they fitted correctly, it didn’t really matter which shoes they wore, so I let them have control over this issue. Instead of objecting to shoe choices, I supported them. They grew up learning how to make decisions on stuff like footwear, and kids are no different from the rest of us, they like making decisions on things that affect them. While I made them eat vegetables and rationed sweets.
If I turned to them now and said, “You’ll not get the wear out of them”, “They look ridiculous”, or “No, I don’t like the colour”, it would be so far removed from what they expect is their right to decide, they would think I was joking. But they still don’t bat an eye when I tell them what’s good for them and what’s not, because they know I only impose rules that matter.
We have other guidelines at work. We don’t wear jeans. Well not often. Because we’re all adults, sometimes people pitch up wearing them. I’ve never once asked why. Maybe it’s a laundry situation. Occasionally, I know they are going to do a stressful task in front of a PC for 8 hours, so assume they just want to wear what feels comfortable.
Sometimes I reckon it’s because people need a bit of scope to do their own thing, and as it doesn’t really matter, I worry about things which do matter.
There’s another feature of management I’ve seen in business. Every manager needs to make decisions. It’s part of what we expect of ourselves when we are appointed. No one has ever sat down with a manager to carry out a review and been told, “We’re doing just fine, nothing’s going to change”.
If the manager has scope to make significant improvements, the changes will be ambitious. From others, you will get plans for a new Tidy Desk Policy.
Newco manager, Pedro Caixinha, has informed his players they cannot wear green boots, as that is the colour of Celtic. Set aside the fact that this is a contrived attempt to create faux rivalry – it simply won’t. This is a serious contravention of the rules of leadership.
Setting rules about stuff which no one should care about, is self-demeaning. It costs the rule-maker credibility, and credibility is everything in leadership. Especially in a football dressing room.
This guy will be lucky to see the September Weekend.
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Good Morning CQN
Just a quick visit to say – a huge thanks to one and all, from the very bottom of my heart, for all the thoughts and prayers directed towards both my Dad, and the family.
My Ghirls and nephews ( including those in Canada) look into this site
These wishes will give them all a huge lift
Thanks
Oh – Jobo, Marcus ( CRC’s Dad) and fairhill’s Ghirl – belated best wishes on your birthday
And to those who may celebrate today
Well said , N,
Cheero for now.
JJ
Cowiebhoy
Condolences on your sad loss.
HH
COWIEBHOY
So sorry to hear about your Dad. A special wee hug for your Mum from me.
My sincere condolences.
R I P
Cowiebhoy
Just to say my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this sad time. RIP John.
Niall McGinn
Has joined South Korean team
Gwangju FC
Frankmarker
Aberdeen gonna miss their 2 irish wingers . Both been match winners for them.
Wonder if Hayes will thrive under the Celtic pressure or struggle to handle it like Niall did?
See Pedro is rattling on about the green boots farce. Apparently it’s to preserve the club’s culture. Now there’s a laugh, most of the Numpties could not spell it.
Niall joins his new teamates in tough training session
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CH1XGdu-hzQ
COWIEBHOY
Sincere sympathy for the loss of yer Auld Da – very sad.
HH
BGFC
Cowiebhoy
Sincere condolences at a very sad and difficult time for you and yours.
Thoughts and prayers with you all.
God bless.
COWIEBHOY So sorry to hear about your Dad passing. Take care of yerself and your family.
The stories have changed from “Moussa Dembele and Stuart Armstrong might leave” to “Moussa Dembele and Stuart Armstrong WILL leave once the CL qualifiers are over”
Pretty depressing but you can’t believe everything you read. Celtic don’t NEED to sell Moussa this summer. He has 3 years left on his deal.
Cowiebhoy – just logged on and had to scroll back to find your tribute to your Dad after reading similar tributes to yourself. You are truly blessed to have had such a lovely father to be able to have penned such a heartfelt tribute. Thanks for sharing and keep thinking of the good times.
TimJim on 4th July 2017 9:18 am
See Pedro is rattling on about the green boots farce. Apparently it’s to preserve the club’s culture. Now there’s a laugh, most of the Numpties could not spell it.
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I’m glad they have yet again exposed their ‘culture’ – it’s always about what they are against – it is exclusive not inclusive – yeah STUPID.
Happy independence day to all our Stateside Bhoys and Ghirls
SCULLYBHOY
Hun Culture? I sometimes think that escaped from Porton Down.
(Or Portadown,take your pick…)
Cowiebhoy
So sorry to hear of the passing of your father John.
May eternal rest grant unto him o lord.
Special prayer will be said in support of you and the remaining McCabes
God bless you all
My own da passed 36 years.still makes me smile thinking bout him
HH
Hi Paul67,
Very interesting piece on Management and treating folk as grown-ups.
One thing I’ve learned through many processes, including child rearing and Managing, is that people need to feel in control, the more you confine them the more cramped and anxious they feel.
This restricts growth, self-sufficiency, self-confidence and ultimately… performance.
This of course does not, or should not preclude; Leadership, Mentoring, Coaching and as you say, a certain amount of Discipline.
When you look at Brendan Rogers in this light, you can see a Master at work.
With Black being the new Royal Blue and Green being obscene, you can see that Sevco Rangers can’t get a Colour Code right… let alone a Code of Conduct.
It seems to me they are very concerned about their match in Luxembourg this evening and so they should be.
Hail Hail
Cowie bhoy, sorry to hear of your family’s and your sad loss.
May Your Father R.I.P.
Hail Hail
Cowiebhoy
Condolences on the loss of your dear dad.
Ah Cowiebhoy, that’s a tough blow for any son to take. May God bless you and your loved ones.
Cowiebhoy
May your father rest in peace.
Embdae know if new ST
Holders have had them sent out yet ta
What next for peppa,sorry,Pedro a trip to Kentucky to price the blue grass,that will keep the numbskulls happy.
QUONNO, 10:34 AM
My da used to go on to me about the Chinese owner of a takeaway near the New Lodge in the 70s that refused to serve Brits. He was known to the locals as Plovo Charlie
!!Bada Bing!! on 3rd July 2017 10:45 pm
Have etims ever had an exclusive, serious question
==============
They called the Jordan Rhodes deal a number of times before he eventually signed.
Oh no, wait a minute…
HH
Morning Celts
Whit nae Musonda:)
Somebody is at it.
HH
TRADITIONALIST88,BADABING
They got our latest signing spot on.
http://etims.net/?p=11644
THEGREENMAN
I really hope we either get Musonda or PR. Both really talented young players.
And with PR we get continuity. So there’s my pick,if push comes to shove.
BMCUWP
Id rather have both:)
Cant see either though.
Sadly.
Brendan will still bring a quality player in though.
HH
Power, pace, killer pass?
It must be Eboue Kuoassi!
Conned again!
Patience Bhoys Patience:))
!!Bada Bing!! on 3rd July201710:45pm
Have etims ever had an exclusive, serious question
Nope.
But it should make us look at our own media. (Cqn, jf, e-tims etc-any Celtic media)
What are we getting told/not told by them as I feel most sites have gone down in the quality of their reporting (might have a bounce on wed)
Why do we participate in the same old speculative nonsense year in year out?
Thought that was what msm did….I suppose ‘hits’ mean sites are busy.
No only that but 2012fc get well oxygenated on cfc sites(like this one) say bout green boots is latest.
Thought we were different in media sense when really we are dailyrekkkordlite.
Soz for haver mate :-)
HH
AN TEARMANN
Nobody knows anything.
Thats why posters are cracking gags about it.
Speculation….Thats what fans do in the transfer window.
HH
Greg Paterson on BBC radio this AM ” in the days of Jock Wallace and John Gregg green boots wouldent have been acceptable either” clears that up then, thanks Gregg………..Rocket
Best of luck to La Fiorita later today in the clash of champions in San Marino. Our season comes another bit closer. Expectations for this one? Same as the last six. Same as the next five.
Bandiera verde la trionferà. Evviva il Celtico e la libertà
TD,
I was just about to mention that. God help us. There weren’t any boots back then except the black and white ones. People like Paterson are beyond parody.